We’ve all been there: staring at a task we dread or trying to fix a “weakness” that refuses to budge. The idea that we must master every skill is a trap, one that leaves us feeling stuck, frustrated, and questioning our worth. But what if the real key to growth is not in fixing what’s “wrong” with us, but in doubling down on what’s right?
Here’s a little secret: the most successful people aren’t trying to be everything—they’re maximising what they already do best.
The Perfectionist’s Trap: Chasing an Impossible Standard
Have you ever felt that one small mistake undoes all your effort? That’s the Perfectionist voice in your head, whispering that 99% equals failure. I know it well—it used to haunt me, too. But here’s the kicker: perfect doesn’t exist. Trying to master every weakness or avoid every flaw is like chasing the horizon; no matter how far you run, it stays just out of reach.
The energy we spend on perfection is better invested in what lights us up. Why? Because our strengths are like well-tended gardens—they flourish when nurtured. In contrast, weaknesses are rocky patches that may never yield much, no matter how hard we till.
Why Strengths Shine Brighter
When you work on something you’re naturally good at, your effort creates exponential results. Think about a time when you nailed a presentation or tackled a challenge that felt effortless. You likely walked away energised, not drained. That’s the magic of playing to your strengths.
On the flip side, when we pour all our effort into weaknesses, the results rarely match the energy we expend. I like to put it this way: you can give 100% to your strengths and score a 100, but give 120% to your weaknesses, and you might only hit an 80.
Reframing Weaknesses
Here’s a question to ponder: What if your weaknesses aren’t flaws, but signals? Signals to collaborate, delegate, or simply let go. One of the best lessons I learned in my journey as an executive was realising I don’t have to be great at everything. Instead, I focus on my zone of genius and partner with others who excel where I don’t. It’s a win-win.
This approach isn’t shirking responsibility—it’s a strategic choice. By aligning with your strengths and seeking support where you’re less skilled, you free up time and energy for what truly matters. And let’s face it, wouldn’t you rather spend your days excelling than slogging through tasks you dread?
The Role of Motivation: Your Secret Weapon
Of course, even with a strengths-first mindset, motivation plays a key role in keeping us moving forward. Without it, even our greatest strengths can feel stagnant. Here are some practical ways to stay fueled:
- Reconnect with Your Why
Motivation wanes when we forget why we started. Write down your goals and visualise the outcome. Let that end result pull you forward, especially on tough days. - Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection
Whether you’ve hit a milestone or simply checked a task off your list, take a moment to celebrate. It reinforces positive behaviour and keeps you focused on what you’re doing right. - Set the Scene for Success
Your environment matters. Declutter, surround yourself with reminders of your goals, and make your workspace a source of energy, not stress.
What About Resilience?
Life will throw curveballs, even when you’re playing to your strengths. That’s where resilience comes in. Think of it as your ability to bounce back when things don’t go as planned. Building resilience is about small, consistent habits, like maintaining a hopeful outlook and prioritising self-care.
One personal mantra I often share is this: “Your experiences shape you, they don’t define you.” So, when challenges arise, feel your feelings—then rise. Each stumble is a stepping stone, not a roadblock.
Permission to Let Go
Now, let’s talk about the elephant in the room: guilt. For many of us, the idea of letting go of a weakness feels like quitting. But it’s not. It’s about playing smarter, not harder. Think of it as outsourcing, whether to a teammate, technology, or even just to the “not right now” pile.
And if that guilt creeps in? Remind yourself of this: every hour you spend obsessing over weaknesses is an hour you’re not investing in your unique gifts. You owe it to yourself—and to the people who depend on you—to show up as your best self, not a mediocre version of someone else.
Ultimately, embracing your strengths is about finding your spark—that feeling of engagement, joy, and confidence that makes life and work feel purposeful. It’s not about perfection; it’s about progress. It’s not about fixing every flaw; it’s about amplifying what makes you remarkable.
So, the next time you’re tempted to pour hours into a skill that just isn’t your forte, ask yourself: Is this the best use of my energy? Chances are, the answer will nudge you toward your strengths, where your impact will multiply.
Owning Your Greatness
As you reflect on this, I encourage you to give yourself permission to leave some stones unturned. Not every skill is yours to master, and that’s okay. In fact, it’s liberating.
The world doesn’t need another “perfect” person—it needs you, thriving in your brilliance. Remember, the ticket to personal growth isn’t about being good at everything. It’s about being extraordinary at what’s already within you. Now, go out there and Ignite Your SPARK—you’ve got this.
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Remember, you can unleash your unique version of success.
Your Coach
Stephanie
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