Most of us live life backwards.
Huh? Did you hear me right? Did I say backwards?
Yep, that’s what I said. We live life backwards. Let me explain.
When I was younger, I wanted to HAVE a happy and successful life. I mean, who doesn’t right?
Well, I set about DOING all the things I thought led to that outcome.
I mean, it was pretty obvious, or so I thought!
I’d heard the steps for most of my life by then.
Go to school get good grades, so I could go to Uni and get good grades, so I could get a good job and get good pay, so I could get married, buy a house, have children, and get promoted so I could get paid more to pay for it all, easy right?
So after I did all of that, why didn’t I HAVE the outcome I wanted?
Why did I have all the appearance of success but didn’t feel successful? And more importantly, why didn’t I feel happy?
Because not once did I stop to ask me who I wanted to BE.
I had focused on what I wanted to HAVE and the things to DO but not who I wanted to BE, so when I got the outcome I thought I wanted, it was in a way that didn’t align with who I truly am.
Most of us live life backwards.
Just like I was
Because we focus on what we want to HAVE, then we DO the things to get that outcome, with little to no focus on who we want to BE, and then wonder why we end up feeling unhappy and incongruous.
So what if we reversed it and lived life forwards?
Now I’m not saying we can’t have at least an idea of what we want; we can. It’s advantageous to set goals. But, what if after we did that, we focused on who we wanted to BE to achieve those goals?
What if we focused on how we wanted to show up in life every day? At work, at home, in our social lives?
And then because we start with who we want to BE, we naturally gravitate to the things we want to DO in alignment with who we want to BE, which more effortlessly leads us to the outcome we want to HAVE, in a way that doesn’t compromise who we truly are.
When I figured this out for myself with the help of some truly excellent guides, I realised I wanted to BE courageous, loving, passionate, graceful and joyous. And knowing who I wanted to BE led me to DO things like leave my corporate job, climb a mountain, travel the world, homeschool my kids, and work from the road. Which meant I now HAVE a life I love and am happy and successful in a way that is absolutely aligned with who I am.
So what about you? Are you living your life backwards or forwards? Have you considered who you want to BE, so you DO the things aligned to you, so you HAVE the outcomes you truly want?
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