One of the most empowering sessions in high performance coaching is the Psychology session.
Why? * I hear you ask * 🙂
Because we start to understand the formula that our
Thoughts –> Feelings –> Behaviours –> Action –> Results (becoming response-able)
And we begin to acknowledge that life would be much more enjoyable if we could only recognize our poor thinking patterns and replace them with more empowering thoughts.
Negativity has a way of making it into our thoughts and it largely goes unrecognized because it has become an unconscious habit for many of us.
Become the observer of yourself and take that first important step to notice these negative thoughts and change them on the spot. When you replace them with positive empowering thoughts, you’ll notice a tremendous change in every aspect of your life.
These 7 deadly “thinking” sins are the most common ones most of us are guilty of:
1. “I’ll do it tomorrow.”
The truth is you’re never going to feel like doing what needs to be done. We all fool ourselves into thinking there will be a better time in the near future.
Anything you’re putting off isn’t going to get any easier.
The most successful people are very good at taking care of the most important tasks at hand. Some things are uncomfortable, and it’s necessary to push through that discomfort. Start with baby steps and build up your tolerance for discomfort!
2. “I can’t do this. I can’t stick with anything.”
If you don’t think you can do something, you’ll probably prove yourself right. This is especially true with the big stuff.
Remember that it’s not about discipline. It’s really about focus and motivation.
Tell yourself you can do it. Remind yourself about when you have accomplished a goal. It’s more about getting motivated and applying yourself consistently. Discipline is only a good tool in the short-term. Limit yourself to one big goal and really get excited about it.
3. Thinking that someone else’s success impacts you negatively.
There’s room for everyone. It’s faulty to believe that only a limited number of people can be successful.
It may feel lonely at the top for some, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for you. You can be successful too!
When others do well, you’re actually better off being happy for them. You can examine their success and learn from it. You’ll also come to believe that others will be happy when you’re successful.
4. “It’s too late for me.”
We all have missed opportunities from our past, but that doesn’t mean it’s too late.
Believe it or not, as much of a Hollywood staple as Samuel L. Jackson has become over the past two decades, he didn’t get his big break until he appeared in Spike Lee’s Jungle Fever in 1991 at the Hollywood-old age of 43.
At 95 years old, Stan Lee was considered the godfather of Marvel comics. However, he didn’t create his first comic until he was 39.
Colonel Sanders, the original founder of KFC franchised the company back in 1952 at the age of 62.
People in their 60’s have attended medical school and law school. Others don’t get married or have children until later in life.
Some things do take a significant amount of time to achieve, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get started today.
5. “I’ll never be successful.”
Everyone fails at something along the way to success. The good news is that failure can be the best way to learn.
But focusing on your failures just causes you to feel bad all the time.
Focus your attention on your successes. Look back over your past and remember all the times you were successful. Make a list of your past successes and add your new successes to the list as they happen.
6. “Why is this happening again?”
Unpleasant things happen that are completely outside of your control. It’s a normal part of life.
However, just like our failures, if we spend our time dwelling on them, we make ourselves miserable.
We all suffer at times, but that suffering passes, particularly when we focus on what we can control like our response to the unpleasant event.
7. “I can be happy once I have (accomplished or earned) ______.”
It’s distressing to hold yourself back from happiness until you’ve achieved some milestone.
Unfortunately, once that goal is reached, there are always more goals that follow.
Putting off your happiness can become a harmful habit.
It’s important to learn to be happy with where you are and what you have. That doesn’t mean you have to be completely satisfied, but you can be happy in the meantime.
Negative thoughts have a tremendous impact on your happiness and success. It’s important to recognize these negative thought patterns and start to rewire them. Reframe these negative thoughts into thoughts that are more realistic and supportive. I’m certain you’ll be glad you did!
If this has been useful for you, I’d love for you to share it with your friends or anyone else you think may find it useful.
Remember, you can unleash your unique version of success!
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